But he says this is the wrong type of motivation better for it to come from the child themselves. These provide extrinsic motivation to behave in the way we want. Those actions will help the podcast reach more people, and we would be truly grateful. Alfie Kohn believes that praise, rewards and punishments are all ways of controlling our children. If you are an Android user, you can follow the podcast on Spotify here and Google Podcasts here. You can do that on Apple Podcasts right now by clicking here.

Please take two minutes to subscribe, and to write a rating and a review. If you enjoyed this episode and the Raising Wildlings podcast generally, we have a favour. Kohn’s criticisms of competition and rewards have been widely discussed and debated, and he has been described in Time magazine as “perhaps the country’s most outspoken critic of education’s fixation on grades test scores.” The author of fourteen books and hundreds of articles, he lectures at education conferences and universities as well as to parent groups and corporations. Interested in starting your own nature play business? Check out our legacy course, Your Wild Business!Īlfie Kohn writes and speaks widely on human behavior, education, and parenting. Three alternatives to praising your children The different harmful methods of control used on children One basic need all children have, educator Alfie Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or. The counter productive impacts of rewards The downfalls of punishment and what to do instead

Why we need to ask ourselves hard questions about our motives for wanting our children to behave a certain way What he means by ‘unconditional parenting’ In this episode, I get to chat with Alfie Kohn, the author of my all-time favourite parenting book, Unconditional Parenting. Happy New Year and Welcome back to season 4 of the Raising Wildlings Podcast!

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